I was on my way to school last Monday when I got into a cab, manong driver opened the radio for some noise and heard this question from a local radio station: “So, when you’re left hanging or being cheated by your lover because of a third party, to whom would you be angry at? Who between them would experience your wrath? To your lover or to the third person? Why?”
I laughed so much at the answers of the callers/listeners who were responding to the question. Some say hateful words such as “Son of a bitch”, “Assholes”, “Their ex-lovers should die NOW” (yes, with the emphasis on ‘now’). They were so affected with the question that they could not control their emotions LOL Maybe they have experienced being cheated on or maybe one of their closest friends have experienced it and they were once a shoulder to cry o but whatever the reason is behind their angry mouths, they must’ve gotten really hurt.
Let’s take this seriously. The question has been stuck with me for two days and I think if it happens to me, I’ll be mad at my lover. Why, you’re asking? Because if he really loves me, he wouldn’t allow other girls to get too close to him. He would keep them at arms’ length and would even push them off if they get closer. Even if the girl is initiating or doing the moves to get him to bed with her or to even just hang out with her, if my guy loves me enough, he would say no to her. When he’ll say no, she has nothing to do anymore. She can’t flirt with him or be around him anymore. A whore can do nothing more when she’s rejected, same goes with jerks. Just say no. Such an easy thing to say, yes? Two letters, N-O. How come some of us find it hard to let it out of our mouths? How come you don’t say it out loud when you have to? How come people tend to be ‘mute’ when they’re on the verge of temptation?
I know temptation is not something that’s easy to resist. Some people end up in a broken family just because they were once tempted to be with some other guy/woman for a short span of time. They tend to choose their mistresses over their wives because they are satisfied sexually and emotionally, at the moment. They tend to pick the wrong woman and end up being alone. Is it worth it? Why isn’t love enough? If he was tempted, does that mean he didn’t love his first partner? What would every men/women need to have a strong, healthy and a temptation-free relationship? And when will people start realizing the concept of “being faithful” to your partner? When they end up getting a divorce? When they are sitting alone on their couch, thinking about how much they miss their past lovers?
I couldn’t answer this just yet, for I still am at the point of finding the “right” and “deserving” person LOL Not yet there when I’m having a hard time understanding my partner. I don’t even wanna experience that! I want a steady relationship, with challenges and everything that a couple should experience but not this “I’m-not-content-with-you-so-I’m-gonna-cheat” part of relationship. I think that would be too much to handle for me lol because I’m too emotional. I hope I wouldn’t have to deal with this relationship pace, ugh.
Some quotes to reflect on that is related to this topic:
“Contentment consist not in adding more fuel, but in taking away some fire.”
“Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship.”
“We need much less than we think we need.”
“He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have.”
“If I ever go looking for my heart’s desire again, I won’t look any further than my own back yard. Because if it isn’t there, I never really lost it to begin with.”
“I have learned to seek my happiness by limiting my desires, rather than in attempting to satisfy them.”
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough”